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Spiritual Principle Practice is Unending

The opportunity to engage in conscious practical application of spiritual principles is unending. At times, this state of relating with others seems like a constant tennis match. Back and forth our communication goes. Sometimes it lands out of bounds. Sometimes it is entirely missed. Sometimes it seems like the referee makes the wrong call and everything is misjudged and interpreted incorrectly.

Depending on our willingness or resistance to practice the conscious principles we aspire to live from, we may look at communication challenges as gifts to help us improve or we may default each time to a reactive state of stepping out of the bounds of propriety with harsh overreaction, judgment and futile feelings that some cosmic misfortune has befallen us and we are misjudged and victimized.

Recently something was said at me that I found profoundly insulting. When I left, I was certain that my only recourse was to adorn protective armor and to justifiably cut them out of my heart and mind. However, they currently exist as a professional placeholder in my circle of influence and that option will not work.

It was no accident that immediately following that, I was loading video for our online classes. In referencing Raymond Holliwell’s book. Working With The Law and discussing the chapter on The Law of Non-Resistance, I revisited the story about a landlady of a boarding house who complained to the author about having a collective of people who were difficult, argumentative, back-stabbing and dishonest living under her roof. This particular law reminds us that what we resist persists. This resistance is activated physically as well as mentally. As we resist in seeing the best of people, the best in people remains absent. Using this law reveals that I can stay in my indignation or I can simply not take it personally, engage in defensiveness and ultimately do the work I am constantly teaching and speaking of – to recognize the divinity in everyone and have no expectations or needs from them.

This is what the landlady in the story opted to do. She began to greet her tenants with a smile regardless of past behaviors. She stayed true to cordiality and within weeks the tone of the household had made a 180 degree turn. She could have stayed rightfully indignant or decided to experiment with the law.

That was my reset, to follow the example of the landlady. I have yet to see the totality of this mental harvest but I am already far more peaceful and in alignment with who I desire to be. Stay tuned.

 

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  • sophia jackson says:

    “Using this law reveals that I can stay in my indignation or I can simply not take it personally, engage in defensiveness and ultimately do the work I am constantly teaching and speaking of – to recognize the divinity in everyone and have no expectations or needs from them.”

    Great article. Thanks for sharing something so personal from your own life. It’s something I needed to hear right now, as I had gotten stuck in the way I chose to see a particular situation at work.

    I thought the above line that I quoted was particularly interesting – how you were finding ways to not be bothered by the person who bothered you. Another option that I discovered this week at work, is to remain open to what they or the universe is trying to teach you through them. Byron Katie has a wonderful line that she gave to one of her clients who had a controlling mother: that until you can see you mother as the sweet, wonderful and precious child of God that she is, you still have work to do…

    A useful question can be, why were you insulted by what this person said? Were they insulting your effort? or integrity? or the job you’re doing? Did they not see you clearly? Two days ago I had a parent send me a brief email in all caps with 18 !!!!!! at the end of her question. It was totally unclear as to what she was asking because she was so mad. And my reaction was of course to get mad – who sends that kind of message to a teacher? So unprofessional. I knew somewhere deep down that she was busy, or frustrated, or being a tiger mother to her kid, but I didn’t care. And then I finally saw after awhile that her treatment of me wasn’t a reflection of what I deserved – which is where I got stuck. Instead, it was simply an opportunity to let love in to help transform us both. As most things are. xoxo

    • David Ault says:

      Extraordinary awareness Sophia. How wonderful you are to have such investment in self-awareness and the recognition of the divinity of others. Your post is inspiring.

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